As People We Are Not The Same. There Are People Who Like Order In Their Life. They Wake Up At A Specific Time. Eat At A Specific Time. Go Out & Return At A Specific Time. At The Same Time. There Are People Who Don’t Want Order. They Are Walking In The Streets At Midnight. They Don’t Want Rules. They Don’t Want Order. They Will Knock At The Window At 3am & Ask You To Open The Door. People Like This Feel Like They Can’t Breathe In A House With Rules. They Don’t Like Locked Gates. Locked Doors. They Want To Enter & Leave At Any Time. Sometimes They Forget To Lock & Get Surprised When They Are Questioned. There Are People Like This. People Who Don’t See The Difference Between Day & Night. To Them It’s The Same Thing. Even After Getting Robbed. They Return To The Night Life, Almost As If. Nothing Happened
Realistic Thinking
In this image, I was telling my brother a story, Story ⬇️⬇️⬇️
I Once Had A Conversation With A Girl I Was Interested In (At The Time) While We Were Talking. She Was Telling Me About Her Ex & The Good Things He Did For Her. At The Same Time, She Was Telling Me (A Stranger) About His Secrets & Failures.
So Me Being Me. I Realize That I Am Not A Special Person. If This Girl Can Throw Mud On The Name Of The Same Man That Took Her Out Of A 2-bedroom House & Rented An Apartment For Her. The Same Man Who Was Helping Her Further Her Studies & Had Plans To Marry Her. Obviously, Nothing I Do Will Protect Me From The Same Outcome.
I Don’t Look At Women & Think She Will Be Different With Me) That’s Not Realistic Thinking. I Had Nothing To Offer Her (At The Time) & Even If I Did. I’m A Student Of Reality. While You Are Laughing At Your Girlfriend Tearing Her Ex Down. Prepare For The Day She Does The Same To You. Women (& People In General) Repeat Their Past Behaviours.
That’s Why An Abusive Man Is Abusive No Matter Who He Dates. It’s Not About The Other Person. Character Is About The Situation Inside A Person’s Head. I Ran Away From That Girl. Not Because I Didn’t Want Her But Because She Was Naturally Ungrateful. People Who Speak Negatively About The Hand That Feeds Them Cannot Be Trusted.
National ID
URGENT NOTICE
Whenever you do photocopy of your national
valid ID, please open your eyes and don't
leave any photocopy behind, even spoilt
copies. Because, when you leave them, they
will now use your details to register sim
cards and sell to criminals for their criminal
activities. Please notify family and friends to
take note of this. People are in real trouble
for this little act of carelessness. Brothers
and sisters, let us be careful. Share to your
loved ones. Thank you!
In Life
In life, you’ll encounter individuals whose intentions vary—some engage with you based solely on transactional value, drawn to what you can offer, while others are opportunists who seek to benefit from your presence without offering reciprocity. Then there are exploitative personalities who use you purely for your resources, whether emotional, financial, or social, lacking any true regard for your well-being. In contrast, a rare few will value you for your authentic self, not what you provide, and these are the ones who remain consistent through both prosperity and adversity. Developing emotional intelligence is crucial to distinguishing between these dynamics. Once you're aware of who’s genuine and who’s self-serving, it becomes imperative to emotionally detach and create healthy boundaries from those who pose a threat to your peace and growth. Prioritize and protect the sincere connections they are rare, but deeply valuable.
In The Past
In the past, boys were taught how to become men, and girls were taught how to become wives.
Tribal societies understood something important: people can't succeed at roles they were never taught. Training and guidance were essential parts of growing up.
Today, that structure is gone.
Modern society expects women to know how to be wives without ever being shown how. Men are expected to act like men even if they grew up without a father or strong male role model. As a result, many people are lost and confused about their roles in relationships and life.
Some men today have lost touch with traditional masculinity.
They no longer take pride in being providers or protectors. Instead, some rely on women for financial support, emotional comfort, and even basic needs. They don’t want partners — they want mothers. They want to be cared for, driven around, and emotionally nurtured like children.
This shift is creating an imbalance.
While many men are becoming more passive and dependent, more women are stepping into traditionally masculine roles — becoming independent, career-focused, and taking charge. The traditional roles are reversing.
As this continues, we may see a larger cultural shift.
Men may continue to lose their sense of purpose and self-reliance, while women take on more responsibility. Some men may begin to resent this, feeling neglected or left behind. But the core issue remains: people are not being taught how to thrive in the roles they’re expected to fill
Tribal societies understood something important: people can't succeed at roles they were never taught. Training and guidance were essential parts of growing up.
Today, that structure is gone.
Modern society expects women to know how to be wives without ever being shown how. Men are expected to act like men even if they grew up without a father or strong male role model. As a result, many people are lost and confused about their roles in relationships and life.
Some men today have lost touch with traditional masculinity.
They no longer take pride in being providers or protectors. Instead, some rely on women for financial support, emotional comfort, and even basic needs. They don’t want partners — they want mothers. They want to be cared for, driven around, and emotionally nurtured like children.
This shift is creating an imbalance.
While many men are becoming more passive and dependent, more women are stepping into traditionally masculine roles — becoming independent, career-focused, and taking charge. The traditional roles are reversing.
As this continues, we may see a larger cultural shift.
Men may continue to lose their sense of purpose and self-reliance, while women take on more responsibility. Some men may begin to resent this, feeling neglected or left behind. But the core issue remains: people are not being taught how to thrive in the roles they’re expected to fill
South African Future
One of the most sobering realizations about South Africa today is the widening divide between two fundamentally different visions for the country’s future.
On one side are South Africans who simply want the country to work. They long for effective service delivery, a strong and inclusive economy, reduced crime, less corruption, and more job opportunities. These citizens are focused on building, improving, and moving forward. Their aspirations are grounded in pragmatism, accountability, and hope.
On the other side, however, exists a growing movement that seems to thrive on chaos. This group often appears more interested in destruction than development. They speak of revolution rather than reform. They are driven by historical grievances, calls for land expropriation, and the idea that South Africa can regress centuries to settle past conflicts through current upheaval.
This segment is often characterized by economic hardship, limited education, and deep frustration. With little left to lose, their vision of a “better” South Africa often resembles one where institutions collapse, the economy deteriorates, and the currency mirrors that of Zimbabwe’s worst days. They reject the need for foreign investment, productive agriculture, and trade relationships. Some even believe that subsistence-level solutions—like growing tomatoes in a backyard—can replace industrial agriculture and sustain a nation of over 60 million people.
What’s clear is that South Africa stands at a crossroads. The future depends on which vision prevails: one rooted in building a better tomorrow, or one that seeks to tear down the present in pursuit of an idealized but unrealistic past. The challenge is to bridge this divide—not by ignoring the legitimate grievances of the disillusioned, but by creating real pathways for progress, inclusion, and shared prosperity.
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